Is all of this hoopla necessary?
How many times have you heard Grooms say something like this as they face their pre-wedding test ?
Ladies are famous for their excitement over their weddings, but their Bridegrooms are also known to be less thrilled. Some Bridegrooms complain of feeling uncomfortable during the pre-wedding process and activities. Are they less social or less emotionally expressive?
Men may be less enthusiastic because of all the high stress activities they face leading up to the wedding. Grooms have to get the date. Bridegrooms have to win the hearts of their ladies . Men have to pay all the bills along the way. Bridegrooms have to win over their ladies ‘ families and friends. Grooms propose. Bridegrooms ask for the Father’s permission. Men often endure the whole pre-wedding ordeal as tag along to their brides . The whole process is expensive, emotionally charged, and socially engaging.
When you think about it, why do Grooms experience so much stress over the long list of social encounters? If you have missed it, just watch Grooms at pre-wedding showers, parties, rehearsals, etc.
At the pre-wedding counseling session, fiances’ appear truly energized, but Men are more laid back. brides come ready to talk, ready to describe all their plans, ready to bubble over. Unfortunately, too many Grooms sit silently.
I discovered, that Men have their own ideas, but they may hesitate to share their thoughts, feelings, and interests. For this reason, after listening and interacting with the fiances’ ; I turn to the Bridegrooms and begin asking open ended questions to uncover their thoughts.
Are weddings just for brides ? Some have suggested so. On the other hand, to have a wedding you need both fiances’ and Men . Maybe out of a desire to avoid strife or not wanting to suppress their fiances’ ‘ enthusiasm; Bridegrooms are often less aggressive as it relates to their weddings.
Great ideas and deep seated feelings are often held by Bridegrooms . Expressing these with sensitivity is an art. It takes some thinking, listening, and dreaming as well as careful open communication.
Bridegrooms need help to empower them and make their weddings all they can be. Early planning can reduce stresses and relieve anxieties. A professional wedding coordinator can support and encourage Men to feel good about their participation. A sensitive caring minister can help Bridegrooms feel like they are an important part of their wedding. Hmmm. Bridegrooms do belong at those pre-wedding events, at the wedding, the reception, and for a lifetime of marriage.
Wedding day dreams are fashioned very early by girls, but boys seldom give their weddings a second thought until their hearts are overwhelmed with love and passion for their dream girl. It may take a little time, understanding, and support; but Grooms are an important part of any wedding.
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